Infidelity expert Ruth Houston reveals why knowing the top 10 signs of infidelity won’t help you catch a cheating mate; and gives you inside information on what you really should be looking for.

The first question people ask Ruth Houston when they find out what she does is “What are the top 10 signs of infidelity?” Houston, an infidelity expert, lists them below.

• working late
• increased concern about wardrobe or personal appearance
• unaccounted for absences
• suspicious phone calls – hang ups, wrong numbers, etc.
• lots of lies or excuses
• stops wearing wedding ring
• starts complaining, arguing or picking fights over trivial things
• decrease in sex life
• lipstick on his collar
• strange numbers on phone bill or on slips of paper
• unusual or unexplained charges on credit card bills

These are the top 10 signs of infidelity. But according to Houston, founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, knowing the top 10 signs won’t help you catch a cheating mate. “Seeing these signs is no guarantee that your partner is cheating,” Houston warns. “And not seeing them doesn’t guarantee that you have a faithful mate.”

Look for the Subtle Signs
Houston explains, “The obvious signs of infidelity – the top 10 signs – are the signs the cheater will usually cover up. So instead, be alert for subtle signs. These are the signs the cheater doesn’t even realize he’s displaying, so there’s no way he can cover them up. Learn how to spot the subtle signs, and you’ll catch the cheater every time.”

“Signs of infidelity seldom appear in isolation,” Houston says. “Where there’s one sign, there are plenty of corroborating signs. Most of them are staring you right in the face, just waiting to be found. It doesn’t take a lot of time, effort, or skill. Knowing what to look for is the key.”

The Categories of Infidelity Signs
Drawing on 12 years of research and thousands of interviews, Houston has identified 21 categories of infidelity signs. Her book, Is He Cheating on You? documents literally hundreds of telltale signs. Categories include physical appearance, conversational clues, work habits, telephone tip-offs, day-to-day behavior, personality changes, car clues, how he relates to you – just to name a few. Each category contains 19 to 92 specific telltale signs. For a detailed description of each category and the number of signs it contains, e-mail [email protected from spam bots: InfidelityInfo at gmail.com] with “categories of infidelity signs” in the subject line.

How to Tell if He’s Cheating
“If your partner is really cheating,” says Houston, “You’ll find more than just a sprinkling of telltale signs. You’ll find clusters of signs from several categories all at once.” The more signs you spot, the greater the likelihood that your partner is cheating, or planning to do so very soon. Once again Houston stresses, “Knowing what to look for is the key.” All you need are your own eyes and ears, your personal knowledge of your partner, and the information in Houston’s book.

A Guide for Signs of Infidelity
Houston’s book, Is He Cheating on You – 829 Telltale Signs, lists practically every known sign of infidelity -- including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Many consider Houston’s book to be the most comprehensive infidelity reference of its kind. Despite the title, most of the signs of infidelity in Is He Cheating on You? also apply to cheating women as well as cheating men. However, by popular request, Houston added a special section to the e-book version just for men, entitled Is SHE Cheating?

Safeguard Your Relationship by Knowing the Signs
Houston, who was once an infidelity victim herself, offers this advice: “Don’t depend on the presence or absence of the top 10 signs of infidelity to tell you whether or not your partner is cheating, or on the verge of having an extramarital affair. Learn to spot the subtle signs of a cheating mate. You don’t want to be the last to know. The future of your marriage or relationship may depend on your ability to recognize the telltale signs in time.”

Copyright © 2006. Ruth Houston.

Infidelity expert, Ruth Houston is the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs. Eleven years of in-depth research have made her the nation’s leading authority on signs of infidelity. Through her research, which encompasses both male and female infidelity, Houston has identified 21 major categories of infidelity signs. For more information on infidelity and to learn more about the book, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com.