June 6, 2006
Hope you all enjoyed a fantastic May! Did you take advantage of Date Your Mate Month! If so, we'd love to hear about it and invite you to submit your story at Romance Boosters or Cupid's Corner.
Time for this monthís love lesson!
A couple of weeks ago, I came across a fabulous e-book entitled How to Be Wanted for a Lifetime of Nights and Not Just a Night of a Lifetime. In addition to having given the book a great title, the author, Stanley J. Leffew writes on the value of lasting relationships and how we must first value ourselves. I couldnít agree with him more.
I wonder how many of us truly value ourselves. My guess is not too many. Perhaps youíre wondering what I mean by value? Self-love ... self-acceptance. Unfortunately, many of us equate self-love with self-centeredness which is even more unfortunate. This is not what self-love means at all. In the words of Lauren Roach-Mahbeer, “Loving yourself is not about an ego trip; it is about knowing you are someone special Ö” And when you donít love yourself, you are apt to attract others who donít love and accept themselves either. You are in effect setting yourself up for even more pain. How can your relationships survive, let alone thrive, if its foundation is not built on real love?
Whether you choose to believe it or not, you will never have a truly loving or successful relationship with a partner, unless you love and respect yourself. For when you deny yourself, you are opening the door to compromising yourself and accepting less than what you deserve, for making excuses for the pain in the relationship, for blaming someone else for what you lack. And in case you were thinking he or she will change, itís not by trying to change your partner that is going to make your life and your relationship more fulfilling. The change must begin with you.
You are the author of your own life and the most important gift you can give yourself and to those around you is to love yourself. When you live love and feel love, you create more love, and when you love yourself, you will live happier, more fulfilling relationships. Thatís a promise!
You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.
- The Buddha
Be sure not to miss next month's love lesson. I'll be talking about kissing!
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