Do you know that 71% of people think that meeting through friends is the best way to meet new people? Surprisingly (at least to me anyway), 42.4% stated that meeting new people by chance is the second best way to meet new people. Third, at 20%, is a party, bar or club; and fourth, 7.69% online, and .7% at work. (Harlequin Romance Report 2006)
These findings, though quite interesting, mean very little if your mantra has become “been there, done that,” and you find every reason to make an excuse not to venture Ö out there. I hate to be the one to break it to you, but not venturing out there will get you nowhere. Furthermore, sitting around, looking at the four walls, is not going to open up your social calendar anytime soon. Of course, Iím going with the assumption that maybe, just maybe, youíve entertained the thought of how nice it would be to have a companion, someone to laugh with, grow with, have fun with.
For those of you already in a relationship, Iím going to assume that you too have a single friend or two or three who have shared their negative outlook on love Ö that theyíve given up on the whole idea of finding true love Ö that there is no such thing as that special someone. Goodness knows Iíve heard this from enough men and women!
Thereís no doubt that starting a new relationship can be a scary or frustrating thing Ö especially if youíve been hurt in the past or have run up against a few “strange” ones. No one promised that finding that special someone came without any bumps and bruises. As a toddler, you fell down how many times before you finally managed to skillfully walk, run, hop, jump, skip, dance, etc.? So too with love. If you are clear on what you want in a relationship; confident about who you are and what you are prepared to bring to a relationship, and are ready to accept that it can and will happen, it will. You may not believe me. I donít blame you. A few years ago, I wouldnít have believed me either.
The point is that you can have what you want. Let me explain. I recently picked up a book entitled Ask and It Is Given by Jerry and Esther Hicks. The funny thing is that my girlfriend and coach had recommended the same book to me over a year ago and, for some reason, I chose not to read it. The authors write that “You get what you put your energy and focus on, whether wanted or unwanted.” They go on to say that you need to focus on what you want and to give it all your positive energy. Act like you already have it, and be grateful. This is the Law of Attraction.
Iíll be honest with you; I had heard about the Law of Attraction a few years ago, but didnít pay it much mind. Here was another fad or so I thought. It was only after I did some serious reflection about my lifeís experiences, both good and bad, that I could see a pattern and how the law of attraction was playing out in my life. For instance, Iím divorced not once, but twice. Iím sure you can understand my disinterest in committing to a relationship again. It wasnít until I did some serious soul searching that I discovered that it was I who was standing in my way of a loving, respectful relationship. It became obvious to me that I had not clearly thought out what I wanted in a relationship. I was insecure, afraid, and had a very poor self-image. How could I expect someone to love me if I didnít even love myself? Suffice it to say that much has changed in my life over the last several years Ö for the better. Why? Because I believe I am worthy. That what I expect, that what I am grateful for, I already have.
When you adopt an attitude of gratitude and focus on the positive, you will be amazed at the results. Whether weíre talking relationships, career, money, health, the Law of Attraction works. Try it Ö what do you have to lose?
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